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What’s time got to do with it? Knowing when to leave a relationship

Dominique Burns | Staff Writer

Meeting someone for the first time and making it past the friendship stage is a process no one wants to start over. Let’s face it, once you think you’ve found the one, there’s no opinion that can change that. However if you find yourself feeling like you’re fighting for your relationship more than enjoying it, is it really worth staying?

Nikki Miller, a senior, biology major from Raleigh, North Carolina said, “People stay in relationships longer than needed because they are scared of change. But something that people need to realize is if the relationship isn’t building or helping you towards a goal, it’s essentially toxic.”

Toxic relationships are something people want to stay away from, but keep finding themselves in. When it comes to friendships, it can be easy to just let go and leave the negativity behind, but a first love can be a little harder to just let go.

James Benbow III, a junior, architecture major from Washington, D.C. explained how social situations shape the way people deal with relationships.

“In today’s society people fear being viewed as un-loyal so they’ll stay with their partner no matter what the circumstance or how long just so they don’t get labeled as otherwise. People don’t like getting to know a whole new person. They’ll avoid it and stick to what they know.”

Is sticking to what you know worth your happiness?

Tionne Lemmon, a junior, English major from Northern Virginia said, “I feel like people love with time because they’ve been through a lot with their partner and feel like they can eventually get through it. Because of that, they don’t realize how toxic it is for their relationship.”

Settling isn’t worth the love you think you’re getting. Sometimes people confuse being in a situationship for a long period of time with love. Don’t sacrifice your time for what feels like affection and the fear of having to rebuild a relationship from the ground up with another person. Time does not replace self worth, happiness and genuine love. Don’t treat yourself like a substitute.

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What guys (think they) want in a ‘wifey’

Alexis Weston | Staff Writer

The terms “wifey” and “wifey material” get thrown around everyday; but what do these terms actually mean on Hampton’s campus?

According to Quinton Burnett, a junior, finance major from Kansas City, Kansas, said it’s difficult to define the term.

When it comes to how a woman qualifies as “wifey material” he stated that, “If she’s there for me and we really click on every level, that’s really it.” At the end of the day, there’s really no true definition of what “wifey” material is. Whether or not a woman is wifey material depends primarily on what a guy is looking for.

Julian Boyd, a junior, computer science major from Spotsylvania, Virginia, said that it’s, “a substitute name for a girlfriend.” When asked about “wifey material” he commented that he, “[has] to be able to visualize a future with her, it’s not really based on what she can do for me but how we can make each other better.”

According to articles like 11 Men Explain What ‘Wife Material’ Means To Them from Thoughtcatalog.com, other “wifey” qualifications include being able to cook, being intelligent, having a life outside of your significant other and being considerate.

While it is important to know what you want from a relationship and the type of person that you’re looking for, it’s important to look at how these terms impact how women present themselves to men.

Sarah Maloud-Washington, a sophomore, criminal justice major from Conyers, Georgia, said that  the “wifey” role, “forces women to try to fit into or be this ideal image of what a wifey is,” in order to impress men.

Why should a woman have to shape her personality into this ideal version of the “perfect woman” just to please a guy? It’s not fair and it makes women feel as if a guy will never see a future with them just because they act a certain way.

It seems that the men asked have a more introspective and reflective idea about her rather than a specific set of qualities that she’s required to have. So, maybe, just maybe, the “wifey” is changing to fit every woman.