Mia Concepcion | Staff Writer
One of the most emotionally taxing circumstances is the death of a loved one.
To lose what was once tangible, to see what you love suddenly disappear, can sometimes be inconsolable. How can the pain be dealt with, and how long will it stay? Despite the challenges and doubts, coping with the death of a loved one is possible.
First, do not be afraid to acknowledge the pain you feel. Many try to avoid this uncomfortable feeling by masking their true convictions. They pretend to be OK, trying to hold themselves together externally while will live on in the heart. Words spoken by the loved one don’t have to be forgotten and swept under the rug. Keep the memories alive. Most of all, keep making the loved one proud, no matter what.
“For anyone who has lost a loved, especially a parent, I would say live your life in a way that would bring them joy and happiness,” said Jill Brown, a pre-pharmacy major and New Jersey native.
Lastly, do not rush the healing process or try to estimate its duration. Grieving is usually extensive and cannot be quickened or slowed down. It has to happen at the individual’s own pace crumbling on the inside. They don’t want others to express concern for them or witness their vulnerabilities, so they act the opposite of their desired emotional expressions. This is an unhealthy coping mechanism.
Know that it is OK to be weak sometimes. No one was made to be strong in every single moment. Use this low point to rebuild yourself into a stronger individual.
“Do not ignore your pain,” said Rabia Brown, a second-year psychology major from Union, New Jersey. “Being busy will not erase your heartache. Rely on your true friendships during a time like this.”
Although the deceased loved one may be physically absent, he or she. Whether it takes months, a year or maybe even a few years, the course is necessary in order to receive proper healing. It is important to learn how to talk about the lost loved one without crying, how to continue functioning properly and how to continue moving forward during the process. Utilize this crucial time to piece yourself back together.
“It took maybe three years for me to actually grieve and be content with speaking on the loss of my father at age 5,” said Raeana White, a second-year pre-nursing major from Philadelphia. “Life hit me hard at a young age, but my situation is what motivates me to keep pressing forward.”